Karlo Campana is usually outnumbered these days. He has three young kids under age 4. On a recent Saturday, he played a mini game of basketball with his two older kids in their Southern California home, shooting a ball into a hoop on the door, while his baby boy watched from his bouncy chair.
Campana took paid time off in May after the birth of his son 鈥� just as he did for his daughters.
鈥淵ou need that adjustment period,鈥� he said. Campana, who works at an ad agency, said having the time off not to think about work 鈥� or worry about losing income during that time 鈥� was crucial for him and his family during a sleep-deprived period.
鈥淢y wife isn鈥檛 doing it on her own,鈥� he said. 鈥淪he doesn鈥檛 feel like she鈥檚 alone on this journey. She feels like she has support.鈥� He jokes that by kid No. 3 he thought he had nailed diaper changes without getting peed on 鈥� but he was wrong.
鈥淭he benefits are I get to spend time with each of them when they were in the infant stage, the baby stage, and I get to hold them and, you know, change the poopy diapers,鈥� he said. 鈥溾�奍t鈥檚 like the funny moments of, like, being a parent, like, 鈥楾his is it right here, you鈥檙e in the thick of it.鈥�"
Campana is among a growing number of fathers who take leave to bond with a new child in states that offer paid family leave programs 鈥� and are part of a larger cultural shift that has seen dads handling more caregiving duties. In California 鈥� as in several other states 鈥� men make up about . Last year, men even surpassed women 鈥� as in 鈥� for the first time in the state鈥檚 history. This trend comes at a time when the federal government has said it wants Americans to have more babies, and families report affordability is an obstacle to raising them.
No federal law guarantees paid parental leave, but California is one of , that have passed legislation to enact paid family leave programs 鈥� and in many of those places, more dads are opting in.
鈥淲e鈥檙e in a very different place in terms of our understanding of gender roles, of paternity leave, of dads鈥� roles than we were 20-plus years ago,鈥� said Molly Weston Williamson, policy director at , an organization that advocates for paid family leave policies.
颁补濒颈蹿辞谤苍颈补鈥檚 , within a year, up to eight weeks of paid bonding leave for parents after a birth or adoption. That鈥檚 on top of six to eight weeks of paid disability leave that moms get to recover after birth.
Research has shown that paternity leave confers benefits beyond allowing a father extra time to bond with a new child: It has positive effects on the whole family, including outcomes for both parents. Paid parental leave has also been linked to and a .
In California, men accounted for filed in 2025. It鈥檚 a massive shift from when the state program started in 2004, and men made up about applications.
States fund paid family and medical leave with different combinations of employer and employee contributions; California is among six states where family leave is entirely funded by employee payroll deductions.
In addition to changing gender norms, Weston Williamson said, other factors likely contribute to the increase in claims by men in the state: greater awareness about the program and recent changes to the benefit.
In 2025, the state boosted the amount of income a worker can recoup while on family leave. Now, in California and other states, the leave benefit can be as high as 90% of their regular salary.
鈥淭hat makes it a realistic option for a lot more families, and I think we鈥檙e seeing dads and moms responding to that change,鈥� Weston Williamson said. Still, she said, there鈥檚 a lot the new data about dads isn鈥檛 telling us.
鈥淲e鈥檙e getting one particular vantage point into this data, which is useful and valuable, but it鈥檚 only telling us sort of part of the story, and we鈥檇 need other kinds of information to better understand the full picture,鈥� Weston Williamson said. 鈥淚s it that more dads are working and therefore are potentially eligible for these benefits? Is it that women are deciding not to take leave?鈥濃��
While private employers can offer their own paid leave as a benefit, this data reflects only people who took leave through the state.听
A spokesperson for the California Employment Development Department, which administers the state family leave program, said the department couldn鈥檛 provide definitive reasons for the increase in bonding claims by men.
One thing is clear: The growth in these states comes as more parents are feeling strained economically. President Donald Trump has said, 鈥淲e want more babies,鈥� and has promoted policy initiatives like and offering for newborns.
鈥淧eople really are very worried about the affordability of kids,鈥� said , a professor of political science at Brigham Young University.
In 2025, 7 in 10 Americans said raising children had become unaffordable, according to the out of Brigham Young University. It was the biggest single-year jump since the survey started more than a decade ago.
鈥淚 don鈥檛 think they want government involved in the decision to have kids,鈥� Pope said. 鈥淏ut they worry a lot about how much it costs and they would like to see ways of making those costs smaller or getting help with those costs.鈥�
The Pew Research Center found in a that among full-time working parents who are not self-employed, 84% said paid parental, family, or medical leave would be 鈥渆xtremely or very helpful鈥� to them, but only half said it was available to them.
Dad-of-three Campana said he initially wasn鈥檛 sure if he should take paternity leave because of lingering gender stereotypes.
鈥溾�奍 felt guilty, for sure,鈥� Campana said. 鈥溾�奍 think dads maybe feel they need to be the provider. They need to be the ones that are only helping their family by bringing money or working.鈥�
Campana said that when he was growing up, his father worked three jobs. 鈥淚t was hard for him to be present, and I think that鈥檚 the one thing now 鈥� it鈥檚 like, 鈥楴o, be present. Be there for your kids.鈥欌��
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